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The once always open door is closed now forever
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Fink would not have given me a dateline for this. Those you earned only by being there. You had to smell the smells and see the whites of their eyes. You did not give yourself a dateline if you just made a few phone calls or rewrote other people's stories.
But such is one of the sad facets of living on the other side of the world: you miss so much of the important life you wish you could be a part of. My friends and colleagues celebrated the life of my beloved mentor today in Athens, Ga. My wonderful parents made the trek for me, and that meant almost everything. But I would have given a lot to be there, to have heard the stories, to have been together again with that band of Finksters, the army of driven, dedicated ink-stained wretches that Fink created and inspired.
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| My father at the memorial |
I am, however,
forced to rewrite from my copy desk in New Zealand. I am never at
a loss for words when it comes to
talking about Fink. But trying to craft remarks for his memorial service proved intractably hard. My father delivered my remarks with a few of his own words added in with "wit and elegance," according to one report. The Finksters, Jeff Wilson, Les Simpson, Steve Sears and the folks at Grady College treated my parents with great kindness and for that I am deeply grateful too. Here's what I wrote:
"To Sue and the rest of Conrad’s family, I’d like to pass on my deep condolences – and also our thanks for sharing this remarkable man with us over all these years.
I have dozens of stories that I wanted to tell today. I wish I could be here to do so, but also to listen to all of your stories.
Knowing how much Fink meant to me, my father kindly offered to come in my stead so that I could pay my respects through him.
Ironically it has taken me weeks to know where to start. Normally I don’t know where to stop when it comes to talking about Fink. Complete strangers all over the world have been regaled about him.
I finally realized there was only one thing that I had to say, something I never had the chance to tell Fink in person.
Thank you.
Thank you for seeing through my “diffidence” and realizing there was something confident in there.
Thank you for lighting a fire in me that gave me direction and set me on my way.
Thank you for teaching me that people are the story.
Thank you for lining my curiosity with skepticism.
But most of all, thank you for taking a special interest in me.
Fink made me as passionate about the newspaper business as he was. So when I began harboring thoughts of jumping ship three years back I felt almost as if I were betraying my mentor or, worse still, letting him down. When I finally reached out to him, with dread in my stomach, he not only understood, but he began giving me advice about my new career. Even if it took me away from the newspapers to which he had devoted his life.
That perhaps meant more to me than any of the other things he did for me. He helped me because I was Adrian Pratt. Not just because I was a newspaper man.
I feel the loss of him keenly. But I feel the knowing of him much more deeply.
Goodbye, my old teacher. And thank you."
My friend Steve Sears ended his remarks by very appropriately quoting Longfellow:
When a great man dies,
For years beyond our ken,
The light he leaves behind him lies,
Upon the path of men.
Rest in peace, Conrad. If I may call you Conrad now.